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People often ask whether this or that swinger party venue is a good
one or not. Having experienced parties at most venues all over the
U.K., my answer to this question emphasizes that it is not really a
good venue that makes a good party but rather the people attending it.
In
terms of size and facilities there are several really outstanding
swinger party venues to be found but it doesn't necessarily follow that
every party at such venues is a good one. Conversely, a small, private
house party with practically no special facilities can often provide a
swinger party that really swings. It's people who make parties - not
places.
Assuming the venue is adequately suitable for hosting a
swinger party, there are probably five main requirements for creating
the kind of environment that will make a swinger party really swing.
- The Majority of Guests Participate
Probably
the most common reason for swinger parties flopping is due to them
having too many guests who do not participate. Sadly, the swing scene
attracts many who are just curious about what goes on and who rarely,
if ever actually do any swinging. These people may simply be voyeurs
but they can also often be couples, led by males who vainly hope that
they can persuade their partners into swinging by taking them to a
party.
Unfortunately, it only takes a few non-participating guests
of this type, plus a few nervous - but otherwise genuine - newcomers,
to bring about a party mood that stops it ever getting off the ground.
Even, experienced, fully participating swingers can be quickly affected
by this kind of atmosphere and will often leave prematurely, reducing
the number of potential participants still further. - Plenty of People
Although
some very good swinger parties take place with very small numbers of
guests, the odds are firmly stacked in favour of larger numbers of
guests being more likely to provide the atmosphere, choice, and
chemistry needed to ensure a party really swings. Small numbers in a
small intimate setting may sometimes work well but small numbers in
large, empty venues are usually a recipe for disaster. - Balance of sexesA
very important requirement is that the guests attending are made up of
reasonably equal numbers of males and females. How equal this has to be
depends very much on some of the other factors, especially how big the
party is. In a large party, any inequality is hidden quite easily. In a
small party, even one spare male may stand out and be a source of
disharmony for other guests.
- Similar ValuesAlthough
swinging might appear to be about purely physical relationships, it is
no more likely that people whose value systems are very different will
swing together than it is that any other form of bond will develop
between them. Swingers do actually chat and socialise at great lengths
before deciding to move on to the sexual side of things. During this
stage of introduction, values will emerge and either consciously or
subconsciously, will go a long way to determining whether a
relationship ensues or not. It is important therefore for guests at a
swinger party to comprise mainly of people who generally share the same
value systems.
- Balance of Age GroupsNo
matter how different the swinging lifestyle might be from the
monogamous lifestyle, human sexuality is remains the same when it comes
to choosing sexual partners. People are usually attracted to other
people who are in a broadly similar age group. This may vary by quite a
few years from individual to individual and women are more likely to
enjoy older partners than men. Nevertheless, a party where age groups
differ enormously and some guests are totally unable to find people of
their own age group, is unlikely to be a swinging success.
How to find Swinger Parties that Really Swing
Because
people make parties, it is impossible to predict with certainty whether
any one party is going to really swing or not. The answer is to go to
as many as possible, accepting that some will be better than others.
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