One of the most common things you’ll hear swingers saying is that people who share the swinger lifestyle are all really nice people. The assertion is very much true as a generalisation but like any other group generalisation exceptions can be found.  Here are five of the most common exceptions.

1. Boring Swingers:

Swinger couples who fall into the boring category range from those who simply have little or nothing to contribute to conversations to those who have plenty to say about things that nobody else is likely to be interested in.

The ones who have little or nothing to contribute may just be very shy or introverted people. Strangely, it is not at all uncommon to come across people whose sexual fantasies and behaviour would appear to indicate they have an extroverted personality whilst their everyday social behaviour is typical of an introvert.

Depending on their main chosen topic of conversation, the ones who have too much to say might also fall into either of the next two categories.

2. Been There and Done it There Swingers:

These are often an extroverted variety of the 'boring swinger' type, described above. Instead of having nothing to say, they never stop talking. They dominate every conversation with tales of how they know everything and everybody on the swing scene. Sometimes they will relate exaggerated stories about way out experiences they claim to have had at parties they once attended. Sometimes it will be gossip about confidential information they have acquired about owners of party venues or clubs.  At other times it will be about secrets they have learned about certain swinger websites or online adult dating clubs.

3. Obsessive Swingers:

Obsessive swingers are swingers who are so obsessed with swinging that they are practically unable to engage in conversation about any other topic. It is as though their whole life revolves around swinging. When their obsession causes them to constantly relate accounts of their swinging experiences, they will come across like the 'Been There and Done it There Swingers'. However, whereas the 'Been there done it' type always want to dominate the conversation and show off what they consider to be their superior knowledge, the obsessive type are as likely to constantly ask questions about the subject as they are to impart information; and they need not be dominant types at all.

4. Drunken Swingers:

Drunken swingers can be more than just a pain in the butt to the other people they meet. The kind of drunks we are talking about here, are the sort that can pass through the silly giggly stage into the argumentative aggressive phase almost without notice. More often than not this is because one of the partners is not really comfortable with swinging and uses alcohol in attempt to get into the mood. It is when this Dutch Courage fails and the less pleasant effects of alcohol kick in, that their mood changes. What follows may range from anything from an embarrassing public disagreement with their partner to a major argument involving the other couple or even coming to blows with one another.

5. Jealous Swingers:

There are couples who subconsciously use the swinging experience to exploit deep rooted psychological problems of jealousy and mistrust. At first they will come across as being genuine swingers who are both perfectly comfortable with, and even experienced in swinging. Then, usually at an advanced stage of physical intimacy, an argument erupts and reveals their darker and deeper motivation for swinging. When this type of behaviour is combined with the type described in the Drunken Swinger category, the mixture can be very explosive indeed and in the worst case scenario serious physical violence may even take place.

The vast majority of swingers do not fall into any of the above categories and most of the people you will meet actually will match up to the generalisation that swingers are really nice people. If you are unlucky enough to meet any of the minority types make a polite excuse the moment you begin to recognise the signs and move on to someone else.